Single life.. Not A Bad Thing

Here lately I have been learning a lot. I love being single. Not for the reasons you think either.

I love the feeling of not having to answer to anyone. I feel that if you are in a relationship, there should be trust, so you shouldn't have to try and control the other persons every move or be up their ass all the time. UNLESS.. they have given you reasons to NOT trust them... then that is understandable. I can go out with friends and have a good time without having to worry about someone breaking stuff in my home because I am out. (true story.. it happened.)

I have found so much peace in me and I am lucky enough to find friends that understand and are going through the same or something similar.

Truth: Being single can sometimes get lonely, but at the end of the day you have to think that you will find the one that will be PERFECT for you. Understand that it may take time but you have to wait.



Moral is... Don't be upset about being single. Take that time to know what you truly want in a significant other and work on you. IF YOU are already fabulous, make yourself even more fantastic!!!

This is me signing off. Ill ttyl loves!
Remember: Chin up and arms out, take life a day at a time. It gets better, I promise.

~tbabes<3

Don't Settle for Less

I've been working on this for about a month now, My friend has been waiting for me to post it.. and here it is. I was scared to post it because I didn't want people to see how unhappy I was for that amount of time... I know realize that - its life. 

Days come and days go. Truly in life you make yourself happy. If you are in a situation where you have to wonder if you are REALLY happy..... The chances are... You probably aren't. 

Sit and think to yourself... Why are you still doing this? Is this really worth your time or energy? How emotionally involved are you? Do those emotions play a big part in why you are putting yourself this pain, hurt or confusion? Life is full of surprises. There are better things and better people who have yet to enter into your life. So take that risk to put yourself in a better position. 

Let me tell you guys. I am very scarred. I have this fear with people I date that, if I piss them off and tell them no that they are going to hurt me. Recently, I got out of relationship in which it was abusive... Both mentally and physically. So now anytime anyone reaches for me, my heart skips a beat and I lose my breath. That fear was instilled in me by someone who I thought loved me. I was wrong. Love is not being afraid and  trusting that other person wholeheartedly. Once you reach for me or place your hands on me, I will lose all that I gave you. I can give my trust easily but once its lost... Theres no going back. 

It seems to happen a lot to me. I give my heart out and it backfires and I end up getting hurt. For the last few months, I thought that I was happy. However in the back of my mind I knew that I wasn't. I was so stressed about myself and other people that I cried myself to sleep. No one was the wiser. I always want to make other people happy over myself.  A lot of people say that I care too much and that I am always trying to help people, which is true. I love to see people succeed. My downfall is I tend to forget about what I need to do because their need is greater than mine. 

I have gotten to the point in life where I just want to be with myself. I want to have fun and do what I need to do before really settling down with someone. I just cant be with just anyone though. I have certain things that I am now looking for in a person. I want to grow from a friendship like things from fairy tales. I am tired of settling, I want to have someone in my life that is worthy to me. I want someone that will take me as I am flaws and all. I am tired of trying to change or being told to change to please someone. I AM WHO I AM and no one should try to change that. The scars of my past have molded me into this person. Unfortunately, I will now have horrid trust issues and fear of physical abuse. 

I need a break. I wish for once someone would say, take a break. I got this. Someone to spoil me as I would them. Time, love and affection is all that I ask for.

You are worth more than you know. Every time you settle for less you are building yourself up for the person that was meant for you. It will take time. Trust me but you are worth it. Take time to find yourself. Only once you love who you are and know who you are will you be happy... WITH SOMEONE WHO DESERVES YOU. 

Don't settle for ANYTHING less.
Remember: Chin Up and Arms Out, take life a day at a time. Itll get better. I promise.

This is me signing off.
see you soon loves.
-tbabes <3

Well here we are again.

You guys..

Life is so short.

You have to make the most of what you are given.

This life is yours and you should be doing what you want to do!
Be the person you want to become and make the impossible - possible.

Take chances. Breathe deeply. Smile Bright.

Positivity is contagious. Just like a smile.

There are many times where this will seem impossible, but believe me, you can make it happen.

If needed, make a small change in your life. It will benefit you I promise. Change you hair - the color of you hair or just a trim will do but I promise a little difference will make a big impact.

This is me signing off again.

Arms out and chin up, take it a day at a time. You got this!

-tbabes <3