What is
love? There are so many perceptions on what love is. Over the years, through
the decades and to different people it means something different. One thing
that stands to be a common theme among them all - is that they all will do
whatever they can for their significant other. That is true for those that are
truly in love.
It’s the way you are able to be yourself when
you are around them. You should never have to feel like you need to be someone
different to make them happy. Then at that point in time you are fake and they
are falling in love with the person you pretend to be. That overall will make
you a very unhappy individual and the love that you think you have is not real.
**take a minute to let that soak in - I’ll wait*
Love is a
wonderful feeling when it is returned. So many of us out there have tried time
and time again to give our love to someone but ultimately were disappointed because
it wasn’t real and you had to again, start all over with someone new. I know
that many can agree that the “getting to know you” stage is so long and drawn.
You don’t really know a person until you live with them anyway.
So here
you are getting to know this person and you don’t want to jump completely in
and move in together so you wait it out for a couple of months. (if it didn’t work,
you’ll feel like it was time wasted – untrue, it’s a lesson that you learn
from). So, you waited lets say 6 months, now you are living together. At this
stage, you are learning each others habits. This is a make it or break it point. You are watching them and learning them..... is
this person clean? Does the way he or she live conform to how you live? Does he
or she separate the lights, darks, whites and black clothes when doing laundry?
Do they was dishes by hand or always go to the dish washer? Are they the person you though they were?
I'm not going to lie. In no way, shape or form is this easy. Over time things may change. You may love each other and things will be going well. Then sometimes youll start to feel distant. Like something has changed. You feel like yall have fallen out of love with one another. There are many things that run through your mind and you cant but feel insecure again like you once did before.You keep telling yourself that you are just tripping and overreacting. You start thinking that they have found interest in someone else, but because you are afraid of the answer and you arent the type to go through your significant others phone, you just let it bottle up insides - slowly killing yourself and breaking your heart. Dont let those doubts get to you. Swear, I know it hurts. Trust me with proper communication, yall can work it out and talk about where yall are in this relationship.
I have come to find out that all people are different. Everyone has their own definition of love and how it should be shown.
Like myself for instance, I grew up with no affection. My parents were never the ones to show PDA so I have not the slightest clue what you do when you are in a relationship. All I can gather is what I see on TV. Thats exactly what I do too. I like to cuddle, forever hugs and lots of kisses. The way I look at it, you never know when the last time you are going to see your significant other. Life is like that. That why I believe that the physical intimacy of a relationship is very important. Excuse my language - fucking and having sex when you can... that is a MUST. Holding hands, feet cuddling, sleeping with your butt on their back - those are feelings that bring you to euphoria. It is when you are the happiest. It reduces stress. Sex definitely reduces stress. Especially if you are truly in love with that person.
Then there are people who are like me but follow in their parents footsteps - they dont do all the affection stuff because they dont know how to feel about it. Some find someone just like that, then they love how they love... without all the lovey dovey shit. In my opinion, I would be upset. I love you and I want you to know that I love you. Dont push me away - all that does is literally push me away physically and mentally. Its happened - thats why most of my relationships didnt work. I didnt love them, I pushed them away.. they didnt make my spirit happy. If anything they brought my spirit so far down that I didnt think that I could ever feel love again.
Back to the point though, all relationships go through up and downs. However, if yall are working and fighting for your love together then all will be well.
You will know if you are in love or not. Love for me is when you wake up and go to bed thinking about them. Where you couldnt imagine being without them. It is when you smile for no reason when they cross your mind or their name shows up on your phone. Love is having these butterflies all the time, even after months or years of being together. That every time you look at them, you feel like the luckiest person alive. You dont know how you were ever happy without them. I can go on and on, but I am going to end this right here.
Remember, arms out and chin up.
things will get better - you are the best you ever.
This is me signing off lves.
-tbabes<3
I'm not going to lie. In no way, shape or form is this easy. Over time things may change. You may love each other and things will be going well. Then sometimes youll start to feel distant. Like something has changed. You feel like yall have fallen out of love with one another. There are many things that run through your mind and you cant but feel insecure again like you once did before.You keep telling yourself that you are just tripping and overreacting. You start thinking that they have found interest in someone else, but because you are afraid of the answer and you arent the type to go through your significant others phone, you just let it bottle up insides - slowly killing yourself and breaking your heart. Dont let those doubts get to you. Swear, I know it hurts. Trust me with proper communication, yall can work it out and talk about where yall are in this relationship.
I have come to find out that all people are different. Everyone has their own definition of love and how it should be shown.
Like myself for instance, I grew up with no affection. My parents were never the ones to show PDA so I have not the slightest clue what you do when you are in a relationship. All I can gather is what I see on TV. Thats exactly what I do too. I like to cuddle, forever hugs and lots of kisses. The way I look at it, you never know when the last time you are going to see your significant other. Life is like that. That why I believe that the physical intimacy of a relationship is very important. Excuse my language - fucking and having sex when you can... that is a MUST. Holding hands, feet cuddling, sleeping with your butt on their back - those are feelings that bring you to euphoria. It is when you are the happiest. It reduces stress. Sex definitely reduces stress. Especially if you are truly in love with that person.
Then there are people who are like me but follow in their parents footsteps - they dont do all the affection stuff because they dont know how to feel about it. Some find someone just like that, then they love how they love... without all the lovey dovey shit. In my opinion, I would be upset. I love you and I want you to know that I love you. Dont push me away - all that does is literally push me away physically and mentally. Its happened - thats why most of my relationships didnt work. I didnt love them, I pushed them away.. they didnt make my spirit happy. If anything they brought my spirit so far down that I didnt think that I could ever feel love again.
Back to the point though, all relationships go through up and downs. However, if yall are working and fighting for your love together then all will be well.
You will know if you are in love or not. Love for me is when you wake up and go to bed thinking about them. Where you couldnt imagine being without them. It is when you smile for no reason when they cross your mind or their name shows up on your phone. Love is having these butterflies all the time, even after months or years of being together. That every time you look at them, you feel like the luckiest person alive. You dont know how you were ever happy without them. I can go on and on, but I am going to end this right here.
Remember, arms out and chin up.
things will get better - you are the best you ever.
This is me signing off lves.
-tbabes<3
