My Significant Other... Annnnd things on relationships...

I have been through quite a lot with relationships. I haven't had many but they were pretty long term. You learn so much about yourself from the other person. You never really notice a things about yourself until someone points it out. Also, you never really know what bugs you or what kind of pet peeves you have until that person does it. 

Being with someone and living with them is totally different than just being with someone. Growing up we envision what relationships are like. We dream of falling in love in a magical way, marrying this person and creating a life with them. NO ONE EVER tells you about the hardships you go through. Everyone who has ever been in a relationship knows what I am talking about. I always through I was going to find Mr./Ms. Right and we would fall madly in love and have a happily ever after... just like everyone else, I have learned.... Love is something to be worked for and that if both sides aren't into it.. it is going to end tragically. Heartbreak is so tragic. I have experienced on way more occasions than I would've liked to... and as much as I hate to admit it.. I have broken some hearts too.. in most cases.. It was never my intention. I tend to have a big heart. I am always finding myself trying to help or caring about people a lot and not trying to hurt them .. however in the end I always manage to do it. OH GOSH... I WENT OFF TOPIC lol.  

Back to what I was saying...

Being in a relationship takes so much work to make it work. If the relationship is worth it then both will be willing to work it out. There is the learning of the person you are dating..like habits. If this person lives dirty and you have OCD.. that is going to make things a little sticky or you guys will come down to a compromise. Then if you guys are both working and working to pay the bills sometimes that also gets a little hectic. The most perfect relationships took a lot of sweat, blood(well not really blood), and tears to get where they are.

When I look for a potential significant other..
I am looking for stability. Someone who knows where they are going in life and where they want to be. Have something to offer.. whether it is an insight to another meaning of life or the maturity that most people lack. Someone who is willing to work through all my troubles with me on hard days. I am a person who goes through many feelings and emotions.. I want someone who can deal with that on days that I cannot. I am not a perfect person and I never claim to be. I want someone who is willing to take the time to get to know who I am as a person, flaws and all. Someone to build and grow with. I know I am not the only one that wants that. I want someone who is sweet, kind, and thoughtful of not only them but others. Someone with a genuine heart and knows how to talk to people, even if it is not something they would normally do. I want someone to be able to compliment the person that I have already made myself become. I have gone years trying to better myself for me. I just want someone who understands that and is willing to be by my side to support me as I would them.

Words of advice...(you can take it or leave it)
If you are in a relationship and you both truly care for one another, times my seem rough, but there is a brighter side. Chin up and arms out. Take the world by storm.

That is all for now folks.

See you soon loves.

-tbabes <3